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Balancing Fear and Compassion

By Sue Siebens

I grew up in the 1960s and 70s. In 1962 I was evacuated from Guantanamo Bay during the Cuban Missile Crisis. Raised in West Germany, I was just miles from the Iron Curtain with the Soviet power and threat it represented. The Cold War was part of the backdrop of my formative years, an ever-present menace. When the Berlin wall came down and eastern European governments shifted in 1998, I was an adult living in the US. It was so freeing and lifting to be relieved of the omnipresent peril. Thinking it was all behind us, that particular menace was put down and buried.

But like all trauma, there are emotional memories that linger.

These past days, as I watch my news feeds filled with Putin's invasion of Ukraine, I swing from fear of world war and compassion for the millions of people affected. My heart swells with pride for those defenders putting themselves in harm's way and angst for the families waiting for safety in makeshift bomb shelters and cold lines at border crossings. And I'm angry that there is more attention here than other conflicts around our planet (Mapped: Where are the World's Ongoing Conflicts Today?)

It breaks little pieces of me, and I feel paralyzed at times. The past is back. It is now. Their suffering is very real.

EmRes-is the best medicine

I use the Emotional Resolution, EmRes. It is a method to process emotions from the past that are triggering up in the present. If I feel emotions well up as I watch video clips and news commentaries, I take a moment for this emotional self-care.

It's not that I don't want to feel something. I want to be emotionally present, but I don't want my past experiences to cloud my now. Understanding where, how, and when some emotion(s) were left unprocessed by high-stress events in my past doesn't remove them from my life. The only thing I've found that works is EmRes.


EmRes works on triggered emotions and meta-emotions. These emotions are secondary to the primary, instinctive emotional reaction of the moment (check out my blog Not all Emotions are Needed!). Primary emotions arise and fade in seconds—prompted by something we currently perceive. Secondary emotions (triggered and meta) are the emotions that last too long—evoked by unprocessed emotional memories. They keep us in fear, shame, sorrow, or whatever longer than a few seconds. They are the feelings that we don't want, generally speaking.

As I view world events, from pandemic and terrorism to autocratic aggression, I use EmRes-Self to resolve the triggered and meta emotions that arise in me.

EmRes-Self is an EmRes method for individuals to use on themselves for themselves. EmRes-Self access the emotional body memories awakened by the subconscious mind and processes them. The stressful reaction is released, and the emotional response is permanently integrated. The emotional body memory is gone—never to be activated again.

If another trigger arises due to a different stimulus, I use EmRes-Self again. I work my way through the stress I feel as newsfeeds range through their stories over time.

As a result, I don't feel as emotional, overwhelmed and paralyzed. I'm not distracted or stalled by the triggered emotions. I can think clearly about what is going on and what I can do to contribute or help.

My balance is restored. I am unambiguous about instigators. I am compassionate and humanitarian in a clear and active way.

Are you ready to let go of your past stress?


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About Sue

Sue Siebens uses Emotional Resolution, EmRes, to work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about this new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life. Sue is based in Dallas, Tx, USA.

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