Most of our emotions don’t have names—many of our emotions surface and express as behaviors instead of overt feelings. Sometimes we don’t share our thoughts and feelings or use our words to maintain our boundaries in moments when it is appropriate and justifiable to do so.
These frozen or inhibited behaviors ARE the emotional expression of the emotions we are unable to express. In the moment, it may feel like nothing—that no emotion is present.
These behaviors can be so ingrained that we assume it’s just a personality trait. Maybe we are quiet and introverted, or we do not speak up because we don’t want to upset others or create conflict. There is nothing wrong with being a calm person or wanting to avoid conflict. But not standing our ground can be mistaken for weakness and lead to incorrect conclusions by others.
· If we are frozen in silence when in a heated discussion, then we are giving our approval by not engaging, whether we agree or not.
· When we cannot navigate conflict with customers or clients, which leads to an unfair exchange of our time, products or resources, it is likely to happen again.
· If we are knowledgeable, but the words get tangled up when spoken, we don’t come across as the experts we are.
Not being able to make our needs known can prevent us from getting the help we need.
· The frustration and wasted time of slogging through the trials of self-learning can be eminently defeating. Not being able to ask for direction or redirection when needed can be detrimental to our work experience and the boss’s notions about our abilities and future success. Wanting to appear strong and capable is admirable. There is no shame in asking for help if we need assistance due to mobility, visual, hearing or dexterity issues. Being a martyr is not helpful to us or anyone else.
So how do we find our voice when our behavior is the only clear action?
When the emotions have gone silent, and only the behaviors speak, it can be difficult to characterize or identify what emotion(s) we need to work on or where they originated.
Also, many small-ish unexpressed emotions, such as frustrations and anxieties, have accumulated in the moments, hours and even days leading up to the resulting behavioral expression.
Resolving Behavior Through Buried Emotions
With Emotional Resolution®, EmRes® these unknowns don’t need to be known. It is one of the great beauties of EmRes.
By working on a current emotional/behavioral event, the original unprocessed emotion is resolved.
Inhibitions and frozen moments are precisely connected to past high-stress emotions—our bodies house and “clean up” our emotional experiences as part of their innate duties. If our bodies get distracted from this job, the emotional memories remain in the body as imprints. These emotional imprints will get triggered by stimuli in our surroundings.
If we are experiencing an unwanted emotion, it is just our body telling us we have an unprocessed emotion that needs taken tending.
EmRes is like the wash and bandaid for a cut or scrape—the body knows how to heal itself. We just need to give the body a “clean and safe” environment to do its job. It is the same with emotions and behaviors.
Resolving emotion is an innate and natural process and EmRes is the first aid kit.
Where are you stuck in silence?
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Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.