By Sue Siebens
How we feel about other people directs how we interact with them.
Our personal experiences permeate our attitudes of trust and distrust.
Trusting relationships show confidence that the person or situation is safe, and we have faith that favorable results will ensue. Doubt about the truthfulness and trustworthiness of someone or something is distrust, indicating that negative things will result.
Both trust and distrust proceed from our previous experiences with a person(s) or situations.
And then there is mistrust which is a little different. Mistrust is the general sense of unease about or toward someone or something—a gut feeling.
According to Erikson's eight stages of psychosocial development, our baseline of trust and mistrust is developed from birth to eighteen months. As an infant, we depend on our caregivers to supply our care and love needs. If reasonable care and love are received, then we learn to feel secure in our world and will feel safe enough to trust readily. If we don't receive good care and love, we tend to be more fearful of our world and struggle to trust. [1]
For example, we might distrust someone who we've had bad dealings with in the past or who has given us bad advice. We temper our interactions based on our previous experience with them.
We might mistrust advice from a stranger even though we have no experience with them. The reasons might be vague but powerful. Our mistrust is based on assumptions and subconscious bias about the elements of the interaction and its consequence.
Mistrust can have a component of fear that charges the encounter and pushes us in a direction we may or may not want to go. Intuition can also be a factor and shouldn't be blocked or avoided, as this is valuable information.
How can we tell in the moment? What is our mistrust based on, and should we accept it at face value?
There is an easy way to tell what is happening: look for emotonal tension in the body. And EmRes is how you do it.
Emotions are felt in the body first. Our environment's sights, sounds and smells stimulate physical sensations in our body that our brain interprets as emotions. These physical sensations can be loud or soft and subtle. We often don't even know they are there unless we are looking for them.
Intuition is a deep feeling of knowing. It is a visceral feeling that accompanies insight. It is a "knowing in your bones." The body is relaxed when intuition is received.
If there is tension in the body, this is an emotion. We can be aware of intuition and emotional response simultaneously, but they are separate and distinct.
With mistrust, the emotion is generally fear. This triggered fear is unprocessed emotion that seeps into and clouds the present. When triggered, our actions are based on outdated information from the high-stress event that suspended the emotion's processing.
We can remove the emotional component of this interaction by completing the emotional processing.
Emotional Resolution, EmRes, is an emerging technology that works with subconscious emotional memories and eliminates them. EmRes uses viscero-somatic quieting to calm the physical sensations in the body.
The emotions are not "quashed and postponed to another time" as coping techniques do. Instead, the emotional processing is completed and therefore eliminated forever. The emotion will no longer be triggered; mistrust will no longer be clouded by it.
EmRes does not require knowledge of when, why or who was involved when the emotion was left in the body as a memory. This is great because it is unlikely that we know the true origins of our triggered emotions. We may remember the episodes when the trigger led to intense experiences. But intense experiences are expressions of many emotions at once. A lot is going on at these times.
EmRes works on one emotion at a time. Each EmRes session addresses an emotional situation from the recent past. This keeps the work clear and targeted.
Through work in sessions or on our own in the moment, EmRes can pull the emotion out of mistrust to eliminate the subconscious pressure and proceed with clear intentions.
What would it be like to trust and intuit without fear or judgment?
References
1. Master of Science in Education Insight: Erikson's 8 Stages of Psychosocial Development, https://www.waldenu.edu/online-masters-programs/ms-in-education/resource/ms-in-education-insight-eriksons-8-stages-of-development
First image by dozemode from Pixabay
About Sue
Sue Siebens uses Emotional Resolution, EmRes, to work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about this new technology so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life. Sue is based in Dallas, Tx, USA.