Why Every Parent, Childcare Provider, Teacher, and Coach Needs Emotional Resolution® (EmRes®)
- Sue Siebens
- Jun 2
- 5 min read
Updated: Jun 7
Working with children is one of the most important and emotionally demanding roles a person can take on. Whether you're a parent, teacher, coach, or caregiver, you’re not just helping kids learn their ABCs or perfect their jump shot. You’re shaping the emotional blueprint they’ll carry for the rest of their lives. Every word you speak, every boundary you set, and every reaction you have becomes part of their emotional education.
While society praises the importance of child development, we often overlook just how much emotional labor is involved for the adults guiding them. The truth is, children’s emotions are intense, unpredictable, and often triggering, especially if we’re carrying unresolved emotional patterns of our own. Without the right tools, even the most caring adult can end up feeling overwhelmed, reactive, or burned out.
Learning to manage your emotional responses isn’t just helpful. It’s essential for the well-being of both you and the children in your care. That’s where Emotional Resolution (EmRes) comes in. This simple, natural process can help adults and children alike resolve disruptive emotional responses right in the moment, without needing to rehash the past.
Emotional Struggles Are Common, but Effective Tools Are Rare
Kids today face more emotional challenges than ever before. According to the CDC in 2021:
42% of U.S. high school students reported feeling persistently sad or hopeless
29% of students experienced poor mental health
1 in 5 children between ages 3 and 17 has a diagnosable mental, emotional, or behavioral disorder
While parents and teachers try their best to help, most adults have never received proper emotional training themselves. Many of us grew up in environments where emotions were minimized, dismissed, or even punished. We didn’t learn how to sit with discomfort or navigate feelings like anger, fear, or sadness healthily. Instead, we learned to suppress them, deny them, or react without thinking.
So when we’re faced with a child melting down in the middle of a classroom, refusing to cooperate during practice, or acting out at home, we often revert to what we know. We respond from our own stress or unresolved emotional wounds, sometimes without even realizing it. That might look like snapping when we meant to stay calm, shutting down when things get too intense, or avoiding confrontation altogether because it feels overwhelming.
These moments don’t make us bad caregivers. They simply show that we, too, are in need of emotional support. Without that support, we can unintentionally pass down the same dysregulated patterns we inherited.
What’s Missing in Our Relationships with Young People
Emotional modeling that demonstrates healthy regulation
Tools for handling big feelings like anger, shame, rejection, or anxiety
Support from regulated adults who can co-regulate instead of escalating
When these pieces are missing, kids don’t learn how to navigate emotions they learn to avoid them.
Emotional Resolution (EmRes) Helps Adults and Kids
EmRes is a body-based process that gently resolves emotional triggers. It works by reconnecting the brain and body in moments of discomfort, allowing the nervous system to process the emotion and return to regulation. There’s no storytelling or deep analysis required.
EmRes benefits for those who care for children:
More patience and presence during emotionally charged moments
Less guilt or regret from yelling or shutting down
A calm, regulated presence that helps kids co-regulate
EmRes benefits for children and teens:
Reduces emotional reactivity such as tantrums, shutdowns, and aggression
Improves focus, resilience, and emotional self-awareness
Prevents long-term emotional dysregulation
“We don’t learn emotional regulation through lectures. We learn it by watching others regulate themselves.”— Dr. Dan Siegel, The Whole-Brain Child
Common Emotional Challenges with Young People
Whether it’s at home, in the classroom, or on the field, the same emotional themes often show up in kids. And often, they reflect unresolved patterns in the adults around them.
The most common emotional patterns in young people:
Anxiety and fear of failure, especially in performance or academic settings
Explosive anger or aggression
Shame from rejection or peer conflict
Withdrawal and shutdown after stressful interactions
Overwhelm from transitions or sudden changes
And in adults, parallel patterns often emerge:
Frustration with “defiant” behavior
Guilt from losing patience
Resentment from feeling unappreciated or powerless
Fear of being judged or not doing enough
EmRes addresses both the child’s and adult’s emotional response in a non-blaming, supportive way. That’s what makes it so effective in caregiving roles.
The Plan: A Simple Path to Emotional Health for You and the Kids
Step 1: Recognize your own emotional triggers.
This might be the sinking feeling when a child backtalks, the tension during sibling fights, or the irritation when your student refuses to listen.
Step 2: Use EmRes in the moment — or shortly after.
By gently turning inward and focusing on the body’s physical sensations in the EmRes way, you allow the emotional energy to complete and release.
Step 3: Model this practice for the children around you.
As you become more emotionally regulated, you become a calm and present anchor for the child. Then you can guide them toward emotional resolution, helping them return to focus or presence during stressful moments.
The Success: What Emotional Freedom Looks Like
Picture this:
A teacher who no longer yells when the class gets rowdy, but calmly holds boundaries
A parent who responds to tantrums with grounded empathy instead of frustration
A coach who helps their team handle losses with grace and emotional resilience
And most importantly, kids who know how to pause, feel, and reset when they’re upset and understand that it’s something they can do on their own
This is possible. EmRes helps break the cycle of emotional reactivity so we don’t pass on the dysregulated patterns we inherited from others who never had access to this kind of support.
What Happens If We Don’t Act?
Without emotional tools, kids often grow into adults who struggle with:
Anxiety, depression, and stress-related illness
Trouble forming healthy relationships
Poor emotional regulation at work, school, and in family life
Meanwhile, adults continue to feel burnt out, guilty, or ineffective — even when they’re trying their best.
“Emotional competence is the single most important personal quality that each of us must develop and access to experience a breakthrough.”— Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence
You’re Not Alone, but You Do Need a Tool
The emotional well-being of the children around you starts with your emotional regulation. You don’t need to be perfect, you just need support.
EmRes is a gentle, non-judgmental, and effective method for emotional healing. It doesn’t require you to relive trauma or dig up the past. All it asks is that you pause and feel your body.
Ready to try?
Book an EmRes session or learn the Self-EmRes technique today and begin bringing more calm, clarity, and connection into your everyday life and the lives of the kids who depend on you.
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