Why Every Parent, Childcare Provider, Teacher, and Coach Needs Emotional Resolution® (EmRes®)

Working with children is one of the most rewarding and emotionally intense roles anyone can take on. Whether you're a parent, teacher, coach, or caregiver, you're doing more than teaching life skills. You're shaping the emotional foundation children will carry throughout their lives.

Every boundary you set and every reaction you have play a part in how a child learns to navigate their own emotions. Yet while we celebrate child development, we rarely talk about the emotional toll it takes on the adults who guide them.

Children’s emotions are powerful, unpredictable, and often triggering. If we carry unresolved emotional patterns ourselves, even the most caring adult can feel overwhelmed, reactive, or emotionally exhausted.

Managing emotional responses isn't just helpful, it’s essential. This is where Emotional Resolution (EmRes) becomes a transformative tool for both adults and children.

Emotional Challenges Are Everywhere, but Support Is Rare

Children today face more emotional stress than ever. According to the CDC (2021):

• 42% of U.S. high school students reported persistent sadness or hopelessness

• 29% of students experienced poor mental health

• 1 in 5 children has a diagnosable emotional or behavioral condition

Despite their best intentions, many adults haven’t learned how to handle emotional stress either. Most of us were raised in homes where emotions were suppressed, minimized, or misunderstood. We weren’t taught how to process fear, sadness, or anger in healthy ways.

So when a child acts out or breaks down, we react from our own stress. We might yell, shut down, or avoid difficult moments, not because we’re bad caregivers, but because we haven’t had the emotional tools ourselves.

What Children Need Most from Adults

To raise emotionally healthy kids, we need:

• Adults who model healthy emotional regulation

• Tools for managing big emotions like anxiety, shame, or anger

• Support from caregivers who can stay calm and help kids co-regulate

Without these pieces, kids learn to avoid emotions rather than navigate them.

How Emotional Resolution (EmRes) Works

EmRes is a gentle, body-based process that resolves emotional triggers in real time. It reconnects the brain and body during moments of emotional discomfort, helping the nervous system process and release the emotion naturally.

There’s no need to relive past trauma or talk through old stories. Instead, you turn inward and allow your body to do what it already knows how to do: reset and regulate.

Benefits for Parents, Teachers, and Caregivers

• Greater emotional resilience in stressful situations

• Reduced guilt and emotional fatigue

• More patience and calm in day-to-day interactions

• The ability to model healthy emotional regulation for children

  
  

Benefits for Children and Teens

• Fewer emotional outbursts and tantrums

• Better focus and emotional awareness

• Improved ability to manage transitions and setbacks

• A foundation for long-term emotional wellness

  
  

“We don’t learn emotional regulation through lectures. We learn it by watching others regulate themselves.”— Dr. Dan Siegel, The Whole-Brain Child

Common Emotional Challenges with Young People

Whether it’s at home, in the classroom, or on the field, the same emotional themes often show up in kids. And often, they reflect unresolved patterns in the adults around them.

The most common emotional patterns in young people:

• Anxiety and fear of failure, especially in performance or academic settings

• Explosive anger or aggression

• Shame from rejection or peer conflict

• Withdrawal and shutdown after stressful interactions

• Overwhelm from transitions or sudden changes

And in adults, parallel patterns often emerge:

• Frustration with “defiant” behavior

• Guilt from losing patience

• Resentment from feeling unappreciated or powerless

• Fear of being judged or not doing enough

EmRes addresses both the child’s and adult’s emotional response in a non-blaming, supportive way. That’s what makes it so effective in caregiving roles.

A Simple Process for Long-Term Emotional Health

Step 1: Notice your triggers

Pay attention to when your emotional buttons are pushed. Maybe it's defiance, backtalk, or a meltdown.

Step 2: Use EmRes in the moment or shortly after

Feel the physical sensations in your body without judgment. This is how your nervous system processes the emotion.

Step 3: Model emotional resolution

By showing kids how to regulate, you give them the blueprint for managing their own feelings.

What Emotional Freedom Looks Like

Picture these moments:

• A teacher who calmly manages chaos in the classroom

• A parent who responds to tantrums with empathy

• A coach who teaches players how to handle losses without emotional shutdown

• A child who pauses, breathes, and regains emotional balance on their own

This kind of regulation is possible. With EmRes, you can help break the cycle of emotional reactivity that gets passed down through generations.

What Happens If We Don’t Act?

Without emotional support, both adults and kids may struggle with:

• Chronic stress, anxiety, or depression

• Trouble in relationships

• Emotional outbursts or numbness

• Burnout and feelings of helplessness

And the cycle continues. Emotional avoidance becomes the norm, and coping replaces healing.

“Emotional competence is the single most important personal quality that each of us must develop and access to experience a breakthrough.”— Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence

You’re Not Alone, but You Do Need a Tool

The emotional well-being of the children around you starts with your emotional regulation. You don’t need to be perfect, you just need support.

EmRes is a gentle, non-judgmental, and effective method for emotional healing. It doesn’t require you to relive trauma or dig up the past. All it asks is that you pause and feel your body.

Ready to try?

Book an EmRes session or learn the Self-EmRes technique today and begin bringing more calm, clarity, and connection into your everyday life and the lives of the kids who depend on you.

References

1. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (2023). Youth Risk Behavior Survey Data Summary & Trends Report: 2011-2021. Retrieved from CDC.gov ↩

2. Ghandour, R. M., et al. (2019). Prevalence and Treatment of Depression, Anxiety, and Conduct Problems in US Children. JAMA Pediatrics. ↩

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