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We are all feeling it -- this pandemic malaise. After more than eighteen months of shutdowns, masks, vaccine hopes and new variants, we have come to the end of what psychologists call “surge capacity”—our physiological ability to draw on extra physical and mental resources in stressful situations. We are worn out, tired of the pandemic in all its phases, and need a break from the stress. Amy Cuddy and JillEllyn Riley [1] describe pandemic flux syndrome in their Washington Post article. Not a clinical condition, but a description of what “many people are [currently] experiencing: a starkly different set of feelings — blunted emotions, spikes in anxiety and depression, and a desire to drastically change something about their lives.”[1] To observe the extremes people are willing to go, one only needs to watch a few newscasts about “the big resignation” and the frantic search for new homes at skyrocketing costs. It’s an excellent article! It brought to mind EmRes sessions I’ve conducted and conversations I’ve had over the last few months. We are all responding to subconscious fears that have crept up on us in a slow but insidious way. It expresses as anxiety and depression at the same time. Emotional tensions brought on by fear often don’t feel like fear in the traditional sense. It can just feel uncomfortable, a low-level agitation or disquiet—a subconscious knowing that something is not right. And when it persists long enough, we’ll do something to quell the discomfort. Escape/Avoidance is about moving away from the situation or object of the fear. · Eating, drinking, exercising more to calm down than for the gastronomic joy or pleasure of movement? · Isolating after lockdown is over by resisting social interaction, safely in-person or otherwise · An overwhelming desire to stay in bed under a weighted blanket When we tried to return to normal, as we did between variant surges last summer, our expectations and experiences were unlikely to match. Too many big and small things have changed. In the confusing emptiness and discomfort that follows, we may then try to take control—another fear response. Taking Control/Overpowering is about controlling the situation(s) where fear represents itself. · Quitting your job without another one lined up (the great resignation) · Spending any amount on a new house (the current real-estate boom) · Moving out to the country or another state when your situation doesn’t require it · Traveling despite the obstacles of rapid testing, vaccine passports, and potential new travel restrictions and quarantines as you go · Showing up at public meetings and making demands for your comfort alone There is nothing particularly wrong with some of these actions. We buy houses, move to other states, enjoy food and drink, etc. But when done to quell the discomfort, it’s a fear response, and we should think about it differently. When we remove the underlying fears with Emotional Resolution, EmRes, we are confident that our inner demons do not drive our activities. We should travel, change jobs and locations, eat, drink and work out because we enjoy it. And not out of disquiet or unnamed concern. EmRes is a simple method of clearing unprocessed emotions from our past. These buried emotions disrupt our current life and behavior by derailing our perception by the triggered blinders. Our subconscious identifies present environmental stimuli similar to the original emotional injury circumstances and predicts the same will happen again. Using current events that trigger past emotions, EmRes resolves the emotional body memory, eradicating it. Each EmRes session is a quiet and calm conversation between the EmRes practitioner and the client. Each session has a starting point or goal, decided by the client. The practitioner guides the client through the EmRes process on one or many aspects of concern. The client remains fully conscious, in control and in a safe space for the session duration. EmRes won’t change your politics! But it will let go of past injuries and root your choices in the present. Are you ready to make fear-less decisions? References 1. Why this stage of the pandemic makes us so anxious By Amy Cuddy and JillEllyn Riley Photo by Braxton Apana on Unsplash About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

”I recently supported a client during an Emotional Resolution session who wanted to face her heaviness/dread about her student loan debt. We spent an hour exploring all the feelings that came up for her around the existence of this debt she's carried for over 20 years: · feelings of shame · feelings of unworthiness · feelings of anger at the system · feelings of fear of it never going away After this session, she felt clear...and DONE. So clear in fact, that she started cleaning house in other areas of her life - putting boundaries with people she had previously not been able to, clearing up other areas of confusion/avoidance with money, speaking up for herself where she's been needing to. All without reaction or charge. And all by addressing this one thing she's been avoiding. I love how EmRes creates a Domino Effect. --Stephanie Dawn Clark, EmRes Practitioner ” Above is a post from one of my collegues, Stephanie Clark, and she is so right! It is literally like we have a set of dominos called anger. The different “spots” on the dominos are the stimulus and circumstances that trigger that “version” of anger. The anger-dominos range from feeling very similar to each other to feeling very different. But because of how we are taught to label our emotions we call everything in the box anger. It’s how we label emotions that we experience. We group like feelings under similar emotion words. This is not good or bad—it is just how neurobiologists understand how emotions are made. When you open up the emotion-domino set using Emotional Resolution®, EmRes®, you pick up one domino piece at a time and clear it. During the session you may explore more pieces in the anger-box, for instance, and work on pieces that come from other boxes like shame, unworthiness or fear. It’s an organic progression through the emotional situation and tension that you are trying to resolve in your life. The EmRes Domino Effect is that each time you clear an emotional-domino, it may also knock down other dominos around it, from it’s own box or another box. They may have come from the same emotional injury-the high-stress event that created the trigger-able emotion (the domino) in the first place. We don’t need to know what those original high-stress events were, when it was or who was involved. The emotional root reveals itself by being triggered in our current life. EmRes uses current triggered emotions and feelings to access it. And once we clear the root, buried emotions are resolved and will not be triggered again. And down the dominos fall! It’s like a force multiplier! Address emotional situations and related ones will come down too. Are you ready to play EmRes Dominos? Image by Дмитрий Филюшин from Pixabay About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

How do the critical personal relationships in our life make us feel? Are we happy, sad, eager to see them again, a little worried about the next encounter or disagreement? All relationships have their ups and downs. Each of us has our own background, experiences, and personal emotional work to do. Misunderstandings happen, and sometimes we bring our frustration from elsewhere into the intimate dynamics of our family and friends. It is only human—we are emotional beings. There is, however, a difference between relationships that need work and the toxic interactions that spell codependence. Healthy relationships can be mutually beneficial and last a lifetime based on respect, equality, safety, and trust. Generally, these relationships start out great—or we wouldn’t stay in them. Healthy relationships change and grow with both partners willing to bend and find solutions. There is open communication. Disagreements are handled fairly and calmly, don’t result in childish tactics, and apologies are safe and accepted. Short-term problems don’t become long-term patterns. There is lots of trust, healthy boundaries, and no mind games. And finally, strife inside healthy relationships doesn’t get so large as to affect outside areas like work, school, or community activities. [2] We all navigate relationships in our own way. If we see shadowy interactions appear, it’s time to examine those interactions for what is lacking. Have they become unreliable, insincere, challenging/threatening shifting? Has the relationship shifted slowly over time, and now we find ourselves looking at a person who is nothing like the one we fell into a relationship with?[1] An unhealthy relationship exists if we are trying to fix the other person or are constantly adjusting our needs, attitude, and communication to accommodate an adult. Why do we stay? Are we hanging in there for reasons such as feeling sympathy for their life circumstances or fearing the opinion of friends and family? Are we too uncomfortable with being alone in the world without them? It takes two to tango. Regardless of either side's “correctness” or “wrongness”, it takes two people interacting to create an unbalanced relationship. And we must recognize that we do not have the means or ability to change another person. No amount of patience or fortitude on our part will help if they are not willing to change or grow of their own volition. In the end, their actions speak louder than words, and any lip service to atone for actions or behavior is not enough. We can only change ourselves. By releasing our emotional fog and confusition that exists in unhealthy relationships, we can change how we feel about what they say and do, how we respond and how we feel about our own actions and reactions. We can bring emotional balance back into our life by letting go of the emotional tension that keeps us locked in a stagnant cycle of behavior. Emotions that drive our behavior When emotions are repeatedly suppressed—voluntarily blocked, they will eventually go silent and become repressed—unconsciously blocked. Repressed emotions are expressed as behaviors or physical afflictions (chronic and idiopathic diseases—a topic for another blogpost). Emotional behaviors in an unhealthy relationship can be characterized under the broad categories of codependence. “Somewhere along the line, we learned to doubt our perception, discount our feelings, and overlook our needs. We looked to others to tell us what to think, feel, and behave. Other people supplied us with information about who we were and should be. It became more important to be compliant or avoidant rather than to be authentic, and we adopted rigid beliefs about what “should be.” We believed that if we could just “get it right,” things would be okay. When we “got it wrong,” our sense of security and self-worth evaporated. [3]” These are emotion-driven behaviors—repressed emotions that we may no longer be aware of; it’s just “who we are in the world”—a part of our personality. But we don’t have to stay that way. We now have Emotional Resolution®, EmRes®, at our disposal. We can change our reactions, behaviors and brighten our life. · When repressed emotions are resolved, we see ourselves and our situations more clearly and behave more appropriately. · EmRes removes subconscious connections to emotional injuries permanently, eliminating the triggers that keep us bound up. We can use EmRes Sessions whenever emotional triggers and behaviors erupt in our life. · EmRes processes old emotional injuries that we may or may not remember. · EmRes doesn’t need to know when, where, why, or who was involved in the original injury. · Address what is troubling you now, and the past will become history instead of triggers. Since there is no wasted time digging around in the past, EmRes represents a clear time and money saving advantage over other techniques. It’s your choice how and how much to include EmRes in your life · EmRes sessions address the situation/emotional response of your choice. o Work on your primary issue from several angles in one or several sessions until it’s resolved. o Use EmRes several sessions to address complex, chronic issues. EmRes sessions in a series can cleanup one problem after another until you reach a good place of contentment in your life. · EmRes emotional healing adjusts to your needs and capacity. Start, stop on your schedule, and when something else surfaces, start again. It’s up to you. Stand in Your Emotional Power with EmRes. Do you desire healthy and loving relationships? References 1. 4 things that make a relationship healthy or unhealthy, by Sam Killermann, https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/4-things-that-make-a-relationship-healthy-or-unhealthy/ 2. 11 Subtle Differences Between A Toxic Relationship Vs. One That Just Needs Work, by Carolyn Steber, https://www.bustle.com/p/11-subtle-differences-between-a-toxic-relationship-vs-one-that-just-needs-work-9273462 3. What is codependence, https://coda.org/ 4. Image by Scott Webb from Pixabay About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Most of our emotions don’t have names—many of our emotions surface and express as behaviors instead of overt feelings. Sometimes we don’t share our thoughts and feelings or use our words to maintain our boundaries in moments when it is appropriate and justifiable to do so. These frozen or inhibited behaviors ARE the emotional expression of the emotions we are unable to express. In the moment, it may feel like nothing—that no emotion is present. These behaviors can be so ingrained that we assume it’s just a personality trait. Maybe we are quiet and introverted, or we do not speak up because we don’t want to upset others or create conflict. There is nothing wrong with being a calm person or wanting to avoid conflict. But not standing our ground can be mistaken for weakness and lead to incorrect conclusions by others. · If we are frozen in silence when in a heated discussion, then we are giving our approval by not engaging, whether we agree or not. · When we cannot navigate conflict with customers or clients, which leads to an unfair exchange of our time, products or resources, it is likely to happen again. · If we are knowledgeable, but the words get tangled up when spoken, we don’t come across as the experts we are. Not being able to make our needs known can prevent us from getting the help we need. · The frustration and wasted time of slogging through the trials of self-learning can be eminently defeating. Not being able to ask for direction or redirection when needed can be detrimental to our work experience and the boss’s notions about our abilities and future success. Wanting to appear strong and capable is admirable. There is no shame in asking for help if we need assistance due to mobility, visual, hearing or dexterity issues. Being a martyr is not helpful to us or anyone else. So how do we find our voice when our behavior is the only clear action? When the emotions have gone silent, and only the behaviors speak, it can be difficult to characterize or identify what emotion(s) we need to work on or where they originated. Also, many small-ish unexpressed emotions, such as frustrations and anxieties, have accumulated in the moments, hours and even days leading up to the resulting behavioral expression. Resolving Behavior Through Buried Emotions With Emotional Resolution®, EmRes® these unknowns don’t need to be known. It is one of the great beauties of EmRes. By working on a current emotional/behavioral event, the original unprocessed emotion is resolved. Inhibitions and frozen moments are precisely connected to past high-stress emotions—our bodies house and “clean up” our emotional experiences as part of their innate duties. If our bodies get distracted from this job, the emotional memories remain in the body as imprints. These emotional imprints will get triggered by stimuli in our surroundings. If we are experiencing an unwanted emotion, it is just our body telling us we have an unprocessed emotion that needs taken tending. EmRes is like the wash and bandaid for a cut or scrape—the body knows how to heal itself. We just need to give the body a “clean and safe” environment to do its job. It is the same with emotions and behaviors. Resolving emotion is an innate and natural process and EmRes is the first aid kit. Where are you stuck in silence? Image by Christopher Ross from Pixabay About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

As we watch athletes, amateurs, professionals, and Olympians, we marvel at their physical skills and performance. The mental discipline needed to execute hours of repetition and practice that creates the ability to compete at a high level is stunning. Peaking physically and performing flawlessly at just the right moment in competition can have emotional tolls that are costly to the athlete and largely unwitnessed by the fan. By the time we see an athlete break down under pressure, the powder-keg has been smoldering for a long time. There are so many feelings and thoughts that pass through us as we build-up to the performance. From our first catch, kick, jump, or throw of a competitive sport, we are constantly analyzing and judging our effort throughout our athletic career. Our coaches, teammates, parents, friends and fans also share their opinions of how we play, prepare and recover. Living under this microscope can help us improve. Still, the constant measuring can weigh heavily, even if we passionately love the sport. The NCAA says the most common psychiatric disorders in student-athletes are in these categories · Anxiety disorders · Mood disorders · Personality disorders · Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder · Eating disorders · Body dysmorphic disorder · Adjustment disorders · Substance use disorders · Impulse control disorders · Psychosomatic illnesses [1] How do we accept constant assessment without driving ourselves into an emotional abyss? Ideally, and hopefully soon, every athlete would have Emotional Resolution® as a resource, incorporated into their training regimen. Self-Emotional Resolution, Self-EmRes, is an essential part of emotional self-care. Self-EmRes allows a person older than 11years to resolve emotional issues when they are experiencing the emotion. Self EmRes Example 1: Coach says you aren’t working up to your full potential today; why are you fooling around or wasting time? An emotional response might be shame, anger, resentment. But instead of pushing it aside to boil over later, Self-EmRes will remove the embedded emotional memory causing the current feelings. Addressing the in-flight emotion only takes up to 2 minutes! Pushing it down is a temporary coping technique. While it may help in the moment, methods of “coping” with emotions, like breathing, counting, and other distractions, do not remove the emotions. Coping just pushes them off to a later, usually more explosive, emotional event. The next time your coach comments on your lack of focus, you will hear it differently—less emotionally. You might agree or disagree, but there will certainly be less emotion clouding your reaction. This clarity allows you to move on to make adjustment or confront the coach on her opinion and work it out. Self EmRes Example 2: After a break from tennis, a man was excited to get back to regular play. But he felt his serve was his biggest weakness. He was always nervous from preparation to follow through. After learning Self-EmRes, he practiced resolving his fear before service. It took a couple times to work through different aspect of his serve. Now he can focus on techniques to make the serve better instead of “just knowing that he sucks at serving”. He’s happy to be back on the court and happier still in the improvement in his game. Addressing the internal conversation about skills and abilities can be a reflection of fear, shame and anxiety. Talking yourself into being brave, a coping skill, will not remove the emotion. Resolving the emotion takes care of it permanently. Emotional Resolution for Kids, EmRes-Kids, is an essential part of every coach’s and teacher’s emotional aid kit. Children between 7 and 11 years can be led through resolving emotions in the moment. And through repetition, they learn how to take responsibility for their stresses. We put our children in competitive sports very young. This emotional tool helps them with anxiety and the fear of letting others down, particularly parents, if they do not perform up to par. EmRes-Kids technique is adapted to be easily understood by children 7-11 years. Instant Emotional Resolution, Instant-EmRes, helps another person with emotional difficulty if they don’t know Self-EmRes. We can all give compassionate emotional first aid to others, helping other human beings in our community. EmRes-Kids | Instant-EmRes Example: A teenage boy made a mistake causing a foul, and his team lost the game. His father, still full of fan adrenaline, yells at him for making such a dumb error, “You know better. We’ve practiced this a million times!” and walks off. The boy has disappointed his teammates, school, and his father—essentially his whole world. My colleague, an EmRes Practitioner, asked his mother for permission to try Instant-EmRes to help him. Within two minutes, the boy had stopped crying and had rejoined his teammates in post-game commiseration. This example could have been for a younger child using EmRes-Kids. Both EmRes-Kids and Instant-EmRes are to help someone else that is in emotional pain. Emotional Resolution® Sessions, EmRes®, involves more profound work than the emotion of the moment. If the emotional moment has passed, the unintegrated emotional memory has not gone away. It just lays in wait for the next environmental stimulus to prod our subconscious into recall. EmRes® Sessions address these emotional events anytime after they erupt in our day-to-day lives. There is no need to know where or why it’s there and no need retrigger the original emotional injury. The body has an innate ability to integrate the memory related to the physical/visceral sensations we feel when experiencing an emotion. EmRes® helps the body do the integartion while we are safe, fully conscious, and alert. EmRes® sessions for sports performance can resolve emotions related to preparation and training, execution, pre-and post-event, and the analysis, critique, and criticism from everyone from the coach to press and social media. Wherever the stresses lay are the fodder for Emotional Resolution. Emotional Resolution Session Example 1: A football player had a severe groin pull that he favored when returning to the active play. During the EmRes Session, he worked on emotions met during the last post-injury game and then the stress of being injured and not recovering as fast as he wanted. Interestingly, when he returned to the game after EmRes, his opponents did not seem as large and ferocious as when he first returned. His “game” was back. Emotional Resolution Session Example 2: A young girl joined a soccer team for the first time. Her parents noticed that she was running up and down the field okay. However, she was not kicking the ball or making goals like the other girls. During an her EmRes session, she worked on being afraid of the ball and the consequences of kicking or touching the ball during the game and making goals or not. Her next game was a complete turnaround—no fear of the ball! You would never have known there was a problem at all. Emotional Resolution Session Example 3: A baseball pitch came to EmRes because his game had fallen flat. He had been a good pitcher, but in recent games he wasn’t performing well at all. During the EmRes session, he worked on not wanting to disappoint his Dad who was coaching him from the stand behind home plate. Good advice or not, Dad’s pressure made him so afraid of failure that he couldn’t pitch. Afterward the EmRes work, he was back to himself—a great baseball pitcher. Getting rid of the emotions that cloud our athletic performance is not to suggest that sport should be emotionless. While the fans might get a charge from athletes roaring like bears to channel their angst, the highest athletic achievements are performed when overwhelming emotions do not cloud their prowess. The excitement and adrenaline still flow! But, the clear, focused mind is more effective in finding a way past competitors. It helps develop nuance in athletic skills and exploit subtle observations of their own performance and their opponents’ weaknesses. When everything is on the line, are you calm about your performance? Or are you battling emotions? References 1. Mind, Body and Sport: The psychiatrist perspective, Todd Stull, https://www.ncaa.org/sport-science-institute/mind-body-and-sport-psychiatrist-perspective About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

So, I like posting a blog at the beginning of every month to make sure a blog is written every month. But this month, I just can’t get to it. I find myself derailed, surfing through horse rescue videos on Facebook, looking for out-of-season craft products online, snack breaks, no food in the house grocery store run, call a friend, and check my email. But there is no blog construction. It is not that I do not want to do it. I enjoy writing. It is fun to research what other folks have to say about my topic, apply it to what I want to say, edit, refine, and then publish. It brings me a great sense of accomplishment. So why am I avoiding this activity I love? Procrastination has nothing to do with the desire to do something. It is about the hidden emotions that push us away from the activity. These hidden emotions are buried in the subconscious and not expressed or felt “loudly” like anger, fear, or even depression, which we usually think of as a quiet emotion. The avoidance of the task IS the emotional expression. Some unintegrated emotional experience in our past is triggered by the task we want to perform. It could be self-doubt, low self-esteem, anxiety or insecurity.[1] A negative subconscious association defects us from approaching the task with confidence to get the job started and completed. The procrastination around writing this blog is in my face currently. But we have many tasks in our life that get put on the back burner: big projects, little chores, 5-seconds of focused effort that do not get done. How can we get rid of procrastination? We resolve the emotions that are in our way. Emotional Resolution, EmRes, removes the unintegrated emotion, which opens up time and opportunity to get the job done. It doesn’t take much EmRes to clear out whatever is pushing me away. And now I write the blog 😊 Are you ready to get things done? References 1. Why You Procrastinate (It Has Nothing to Do With Self-Control), Charlotte Lieberman, https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/25/smarter-living/why-you-procrastinate-it-has-nothing-to-do-with-self-control.html Image by Pexels from Pixabay About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Nearly every sport starts with play inbounds, within the defined confines of the game, and stops or pauses when a game’s play goes out of bounds, outside the game rules. Usually, there are written guidelines that declare what is inbound and what is out. If only life were so simple with rules written down and consequences fair and equally delivered. But no, our life and relationships are messy and complicated. But there are still limits and boundaries for our actions and behaviors toward others and ourselves. Or there should be. “Boundaries are a way to take care of ourselves. Boundaries make our expectations clear, so others know what to expect from us and how we want to be treated. Boundaries are the foundation for happy, healthy relationships.”[1] Boundaries can be both physical (personal space, touch, privacy or sexual contact) and emotional (the line between your feelings and other’s feelings), at the same time and separately. They are bidirectional and are about being respectful and taking responsibility—both saying no and hearing no.[2] I didn’t learn what a boundary was until I was 50 years old. My original family’s dynamic didn’t allow for boundaries. We were constantly in each other's business. None of us appreciated how miserable that was for everyone involved or anyone within ear-shot. Often we walk around with half-formed ideas about what we will do and tolerate in our relationships. It is a fuzzy area for many people. Often things need to go quite bad for a long time before a poorly formed boundary is activated enough to be felt and enforced. But there are always signs that boundaries have been broken. Boundary awareness and its ripple effects When someone crosses our boundaries, we have an emotional response. When we feel the initial emotion it’s how we know something has happened that doesn’t match our core beliefs and needs. We get annoyed, offended, defensive or angry. And then quite rapidly it can devolve into feelings of guilt and anxiety. Later we can also feel tired, depressed, rejected and abandoned. If you don’t have well-formed boundaries, can’t enforce them or have over-the-top emotions when you try to hold that line in the sand, then more is going on than just boundary work. These secondary boundary-triggered emotions are a sign that an unintegrated emotion is in play as well. For example: · I can get miffed if someone invades my personal space unnecessarily and use my words to let them know it’s too close and move away. But if I get angry and start cursing at them, this action is not in response to my present circumstances. I’m pulling past trauma forward into my current reality. · Suppose I lack assertiveness skills and don’t stand up for myself when I overhear gossip about myself. In that case, I’m not being nice and avoiding someone else’s hurt feelings when I don’t speak up. I’m experiencing an emotion that is keeping me from being in my power and defending myself. This emotion is not rooting in the present moment. It is being pulled forward from past emotional experiences that need to be resolved and integrated Here are some signs that you lack good boundaries, 1. difficult or dramatic relationships (codependent relationships) 2. decision making is a real challenge (lost sense of self) 3. hate letting people down (can’t say no/people pleaser) 4. two words: guilt and anxiety (ongoing guild and fear) 5. tired for no reason (mild depression) 6. your filter and radar is off when sharing (oversharing) 7. You are constantly the victim of situations (taken advantage of/overlooked/blamed) 8. You are a little annoyed most of the time (going against your values and desires non-stop) 9. You secretly feel that others don’t show you respect (people don’t know how to act around you—you haven’t set boundaries to let them know how) 10. You might just be passive-aggressive (saying no when you want to say yes, manipulating/punishing others for your choices) 11. You often wonder who you really are (basing your wants and needs on outside opinion) 12. Your secret fear is of being rejected or abandoned (a private belief that being boundary-less will lead to love) [3] Remove the barriers to boundaries It’s not enough to understand that boundaries define the necessary rules in our successful relationship. Just like in sports, boundaries let everyone know how the game is played. As mentioned before, not enforcing our own or recognizing other’s boundaries exposes a triggered emotion that is in the way. Emotions are triggered when a high-stress event’s emotions aren’t processed completely. The traumatic event didn’t allow time or opportunity for the body to clean up any “in-flight” emotion. In the future, the memory of that event has an unintegrated emotion. It can flare up when our current environment offers even minimally matching sensory stimuli. And there is no judgment here. Triggered emotions are just your body saying, “Hey, there is an un-integrated emotion here, seemingly related to what’s happening right now. Maybe you should take care of it?” It’s similar to a different circumstance when your body says, “Hey, there is a hole in your skin, and blood is oozing out. Maybe you should take care of it?” Self-care is needed and necessary, whether it’s physical or emotional! Emotional Resolution, EmRes, resolves un-integrated emotions. This is your tool for emotional self-care. The current emotional event is the entry point and GPS to the emotional root that needs resolving. Knowing or understanding the whats, wheres or whens of the high-stress event that laid down the emotion is not needed or required. Resolving emotions with EmRes can happen in the moment of the emotion or later in a session with an EmRes Professional. By integrating embedded emotional memory, the way is clear to express our own and respect other’s boundaries. Without the triggered emotion, you will detect when a boundary is crossed more clearly. And you will be able to defend your needs and core beliefs naturally and without emotional backlash. Game Rules are Awesome When you can set boundaries, you’re more self-aware and take better care of yourself. Because you learn how and when to say no, you’re a better communicator, are less stressed and angry and to things you actually want to do. can say no. And as a result, you become a more trusting and understanding person and are better friend and partner. [4] “When you're compassionate toward yourself about what you can tolerate, you're better able to express that to other people who have their boundaries they want to follow.” [4] Be the MVP in your life game. Set Boundaries in your relationships and respect the boundaries of others. And if you find yourself out-of-bounds—Use EmRes to remove the emotional obstacles so that your tournament play stays in-bounds. Will you be ready at game time? References 1. How to set boundaries with toxic people, Sharon Martin, https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/set-boundaries-toxic-people/ 2. Healthy vs. Unhealthy Boundaries, Elenor Beeslaar, https://healthyrelationshipsinitiative.org/healthy-vs-unhealthy-boundaries/ 3. 12 Signs you lack health boundaries (and why you need them, Sheri Jacobson, https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/healthy-boundaries.htm 4. 10 great things that happen when you set boundaries, Lindsay Holmes, https://www.huffpost.com/entry/setting-boundaries-benefits_n_57043126e4b0b90ac27088bb Photo by Gemma Chua-Tran on Unsplash About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

“I had always believed that if somebody who worked with me went home feeling like a jerk for giving their time and their genuine effort, then it was me who had failed them—and in a very personal, fundamental way.” ― Anthony Bourdain How do you feel about your job? Much of our work experience is determined by the social interactions we find there. When we interview for a job, we often base our social compatibility on how well we interact with the hiring manager and other people in the recruiting process. But the job’s social culture is, of course, much more complex. And sometimes, we do not even consider these social aspects when looking for the next rung on our career ladder or seeking a paycheck to put food on the family table. But now you have this job that meets some of your needs, but some of the people are, let’s say, not compatible with your social norms or expectations. Coworkers that are gossips, cut-throat, name-droppers, credit-takers, bullies, and slackers can all trigger emotional reactions in us that take us off our best game at work. We cannot change them. We cannot even complain about them. Regardless of whistle-blower safety, complaining about them to the boss or HR often reflects poorly on us and makes further bad blood with the offender. So, what do we do? Finding a new job is not a solution—those same people will be there, with new names and faces. So, what do we do? We do not have to be a victim or coconspirator. We do have to recognize that the only thing that can change is us. If someone’s behavior triggers us, that is the place to start. Even though the coworker’s actions or behavior is not correct, our reaction is not based on the present situation. And strong reactions can lead to disruptive behavior, which looks bad on us regardless of the cause. Recognizing that we have a disruptive emotion is essential. Triggered emotions give us a place to start and a GPS to fix the problem. Emotions that “disturb” us are reactions to a past wound. At some point, we experienced a high-stress event. Emotion(s) from that event remain unintegrated—dormant but readily activated by environmental queues. Likely, we won’t’ remember when the original high-stress event happened, or not accurately if we do. In times of high stress, the cognitive mind is taken offline. But our subconscious mind is continuously recording everything that happens. And our body usually takes care of the physical sensations associated with emotions. But there may not be time or opportunity to do it in times of high stress. What remains are the unprocessed memories of emotions in our bodies triggered when our subconscious perceives something in our current environment that is “similar enough” to our past trauma. Simplistically, disruptive emotions are messages from our body saying, “Hey, there is an unprocessed body memory here; maybe you should take care of it when you get a chance.” Getting back to the situation with the coworker(s): We are not excusing the coworker here. We are taking care of our side of the equation. It takes two to tango; Bullies seek out what they perceive as weak links to overpower and control; For every “winner,” there is a loser, etc. If you are receiving something “uncomfortable,” then clearing your side of the emotional equation is your next task. Being in a triggered emotion effectively blocks our cognitive mind from being aware of and navigating the various possibilities available to us. You are temporarily caught up in the emotion and are blinded to alternative actions. Removing the fog of emotion opens new vistas. When our subconscious becomes aware of something in our environment connected to a dormant unprocessed emotion, it will fire up that emotion as a prediction of how we should be feeling in a moment. It gives us an access vector to complete past business. By resolving the past emotion, we will not be thrown track. We will handle the present circumstance more effectively. By doing Self-EmRes in the moment or working on it in session with an EmRes Professional, the emotion is integrated, finally. The subconscious no longer has the body memory of physical sensations to trigger. You will be present in the situation the next time it happens and every time after that. EmRes in the Work Place Organizations and businesses exist to offer products and services to others and generally solve someone else’s “problems.” Personal conflicts and disagreements within the organization distract everyone from that purpose. Imagine the preparations and logistics involved in a $1M plus banquet at a large convention. The managers and staff would probably work for weeks or days before the event. On the day, everyone is going to work well over an eight-hour shift. It is a high-stress job environment with many things in motion on different schedules. If there are personal conflicts and disagreements between the staff, the day already starts from irritation. If managers are not emotionally resolved, they will not be as effective as possible when listening to staff concerns, selecting teams and pairing up those that will work best together, handling the unexpected and pivoting through changing conditions as the event progresses. Managers that are emotionally resolved can change the dynamic of the whole day by remaining calm in the fast-paced behind the scenes environment. With EmRes, their events will run like a well-oiled machine, and their staff will work for them like a highly-trained army. Now think about the high stress of nursing in a hospital emergency room. It is a tremendous job to be accurate and consistent with all the technical skills needed to assist their patients. With everything they see and do, they still strive to be present and compassionate with patients and family members. It is a lot. They must take care of themselves emotionally. If not, they can not be available to their own families and friends. Using EmRes to clear out the emotional disruptions they encounter daily is healthy emotional hygiene that prevents burnout and fatigue. And what about retail or any public-facing job. One significant drawback of working behind any counter that serves the public is taking verbal abuse from customers having a bad day before they walk into your store or department. As a good employee, you are supposed to stand there and smile and try to make the best of it. “The customer is always right.” And the bully customer knows you may have few choices beyond taking the ill-treatment or quit the job. EmRes to the rescue! Resolving disturbing emotions that surface during such brow-beatings allows you to react differently with the next disgruntled customer. Think of any emotional reaction you have to someone at your workplace—Resolve it! You’ll be glad you did. Image by Pamela Smith from Pixabay About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Rejection and I are Old Friends. --Michaela Watkins For some of us, chronic emotions have been with us for a long time. We have always been shy and anxious, for instance, or always had a temper. Our depression may have noticeably started in high school. Now 10, 20 or 30 years later, we know and expect the stages of depression that demand that we escape to our beds or allow us to get up and force our way through the day. Or we have a pain in our fingers, hips or knees that lingers in our life, limiting our activities. But there are plenty of reasons to get rid of chronic emotions. The stress of chronic painful emotions weakens the immune system and can lead to issue in the body. Starting with Freud almost a century ago, scientific studies have found that the “relationship between emotional and physical health is direct and reciprocal. Research has shown that over 80% of all physicians’ visits have to do with a socio-emotional challenge, while just only 16% could be considered solely pathophysiologic in nature.”[1]. In other words, our unwanted emotions are making us feel sick. Discomfort can become so familiar to us that we get sort of comfortable with them—even if we do not like the way we feel. They are known factors in our life. Often, when we humans get stuck, we do our best to ignore it and keep going—we are locked in an unchanging pattern. Being in a rut is its own problem. Tell-tale signs of being stuck in place are · Each day feels like ground-hog day—nothing to look forward to, same-ole-same-ole, they blur together · Too tired or unmotivated to do anything when you have free time · Fantasize about getting way—not just vacation · You want to change your life, add something new, but not sure where to start or what it will cost in time or energy · Getting sick of hearing yourself complain about your pain-emotional or physical · Even though you think you would be happier if you made a change, it is easier or more comfortable to stay in the same place and mope about it. [2] Sound too harsh? Maybe. But if you recognize these signs, then perhaps you are rut-bound. Everyone's rut is different in quality, quantity, and scope. And ruts can be littered with emotional or physical pain. It is the miserable bits of life that we do not want but do not take action to change, even if we know how to do it. And so, we approach change carefully or avoid it altogether The willingness to change, to feel different and be different is a big deal. Allowing change in our life means that our relationship with the world and the people around us may be different. Friends, family members, caregivers, and everyone else may not treat us the same way, even if they love us as much as before. But, change can be scary. We do not know exactly what will happen. We do not know the precise fallout or consequences. Uncertainty can be unsettling. When we do not risk unwanted results—within reason, of course, then we also do not risk having something better happen. What of hope? What if something fantastic was available to us, but we hesitate to venture toward it? If we are willing to let go of our desire for and guaranteed perfect outcome, then we do not have to stay in the current miserable status quo. It does not take courage. Courage is too difficult to muster. We need to be fearless. Being fearless, again within reason, is moving forward through challenges and hurtles, being fully aware of any pitfalls and handling them without overwhelming emotion. How do we become an aware but fearless warrior in our own life and journey? When the uncertainty of transformation is an uncomfortable emotion, it is time to get rid of it. Emotional Resolution, EmRes, removes underlying emotional triggers that keep us from accepting change in our life. It is not essential to know what high-stress event laid down the emotion that remains unintegrated. But resyncing the subconscious memory, the unresolved emotion and the environmental stimuli will integrate the emotion and clear the way forward. Then EmRes sessions can get down to the business of addressing the chronic emotions and idiopathic complaints and pains that are making your life less than joyous. It sounds simple because it is. Really. Allow the change, and the difference will set you free. Are you ready to get out of your rut and then let go of your chronic misery? References 1. Consequences of Repression of Emotion: Physical Health, Mental Health and General Well Being, https://openaccesspub.org/ijpr/article/999 2. 10 Signs That You're in a Rut, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/surprise/201605/10-signs-youre-in-rut Image by Susann Mielke from Pixabay About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and writes to raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

Celebration marks the passages in our life. They indicate a rite of passage, key events or breakthroughs in our life. It is, in large part, a social exercise of reinforcing an important event that has a positive impact on us. "The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate" – Oprah Winfrey Celebrating our successes helps us to 1. Learn to adapt 2. Develop a "success" mindset 3. Be motivated toward more successes 4. It feels good 5. Create happiness chemicals for general wellbeing 6. Sharing success increases everyone's stimulus and momentum[1] Usually, we know what events deserve a celebration. They carry exciting energy with them—it's part of the breakthrough experience. However, some breakthroughs, like successful emotional integration, don't carry the same excitement. But resolving emotions can have a considerable impact on your life. · Imagine getting angry every time a driver is "rude" to you on the road. If you resolved that buried emotional trigger, you could react calmly and drive peacefully from now on. Is that not a reason to celebrate? · Visualize being terrified to speak up in public. Through EmRes, whether the audience is 10 or 10,000, you can deliver your thoughts with a command of the subject and authority of opinion. How freeing and accomplished does that feel? · Think back to a special time with a departed loved one and remember the love and happy moments without being dragged into the sorrow of regret and loss. Is an uneventful memory reason to celebrate? When EmRes is used to resolve emotional difficulties, the situational trigger is "washed away." It is incredible when the unwanted emotion does not resurface. But the celebration energy is also absent. The new reaction/behavior feels so ordinary that it's sometimes hard to recognize that it was ever any other way. Symptom amnesia is forgetting the problems once they are gone. It's a typical response. Who needs the full awareness of a broken ankle's pain when the bone has long since healed properly. It's when we still limp that we know there is more healing to do. And so it is with emotions. If you still recall painful events or are triggered into uncomfortable feelings, then some emotional event has not been processed completely. Like that painful limp, triggered emotions point to a buried emotional wound that needs to be integrated. Emotional Resolution integrates buried emotions and dismantles their triggering mechanism. We may remember past triggering events, but the emotion no longer resurfaces in future situations. We feel normal where we used to get triggered. We handle the situation differently. There is no celebration energy for this great accomplishment. We feel more content, and our behavior reflects this shift. BUT THAT IS A REASON TO CELEBRATE!!! · You can stand looking at the tiniest speck on the kitchen counter and not launch into a fit of obsessive cleaning. Maybe you can wipe up that one speck, or perhaps it can wait for another time. What a shift in your behavior! · Sit at the dinner table, listening to the sounds others make with their mouths and bodies. You don't have to get disgusted or leave the room in horror. You can take it. Family time is so much nicer now! · As you lay in bed, your first reaction is not to pull the covers up and try to slip back into the numbness of sleep. You can get out of bed and get things done. Enjoy the freshness of life! · Imagine not having any unbearable emotions, like anger, fear, shame, depression or anxiety currently festering in your life. Gone, replaced by calm awareness and untroubled reactions. Yahoo! After ridding yourself of tormenting emotions, feeling calm and content is not nothing! Are you ready to CELEBRATE? References 1. Six Reasons You Should Celebrate Success, https://www.brilliantlivinghq.com/6-reasons-why-you-should-celebrate-success/ Image by Photo by Morgan Sessions on Unsplash About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamentallevel, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

If you are like millions of people worldwide, you have made some New Year's Resolutions to improve your life through statements of conviction. We want to do or not do something that will make our life better. Get and stay healthy and fit. Stop procrastinating. Improve our mind or skills. Volunteer. Make more money. Reduce stress. Have better sex. Spend more time with people that matter to us. [1] All great goals. Most new year's resolutions are abandoned within the first month. And if not then, they are gone by spring. Why? Common advice suggests that those new year's resolutions are not specific enough and are not framed positively. The resolutions are not about you. [2] New Year's Resolutions are statements or promises that we make to ourselves—things we want but don't know how to achieve. If we knew how to achieve them, we wouldn't need the yearly promise. Here is a different way of looking at our failures: · New Year's Promises target changing or fixing some fault or bad habit. · And you are not going to change any behavior until the underlying emotion is eliminated. I work with a different kind of resolution in my work and personal life called Emotional Resolution or EmRes, for short. The resolution in EmRes is about removing the emotions that we don't want—"resolving" the emotions that keep our procrastination or bad habits in place. If an unwelcome habit is present in you, Then you can be sure there is an unintegrated emotion at the base of it. Unintegrated emotions linger in our bodies when high-stress circumstances prevent the body from tending to the emotion and all its physical components in the moment. Our bodies have an innate capacity and knowledge to "process" emotions immediately when they occur. But if, for some reason, the body is not able, sensorial fragments of the emotion remains embedded in the tissue. Later in life, in similar situations these sensorial fragments are triggered into reactive emotions that disturb us. Often they are so uncomfortable that we cover them up with behavior. After a time, the emotion fades as the behavior becomes a subconscious routine. And voila! We have a habit we don't want and can't seem to change, despite our best efforts. Emotional Resolution addresses the root cause of our unwanted habits by eliminating the buried emotion. The good news is · We don't have to know what the emotion is · We don't have to know why or where the emotion came from. Unwanted habits and behaviors are excellent signposts to our unintegrated emotions. Working on them is the best form of emotional hygiene to results. Making an EmRes resolution makes your life better through emotional hygiene. It is like giving yourself the gift of a better life with every EMOTIONAL RESOLUTION you do. Are you ready to clean up your habits, patterns and behaviors? References 1. 50 New Year's Resolution Ideas And How To Achieve Each Of Them, https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/50-new-years-resolution-ideas-and-how-achieve-each-them.html 2. A psychotherapist says there are 3 common reasons so many people's New Year's resolutions end in failure, https://www.businessinsider.com/new-years-resolutions-failure-advice-jonathan-alpert-2018-12 Photo by Sebastian Pociecha on Unsplash About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.

What are your reactions to other people? Who has been irritating you lately? What emotion did you experience just by watching someone enter the room? · Were you irritated, angry, or resentful – continuing from the last interaction you had with them? · Were you nervous, inhibited, or anxious based on your first impression of them --they appeared so beautiful, confident or powerful · Were you overly engaging or nice, showing off, or acting coy or silly as you drew the person into conversation, tried to gain favor or friendship? · Did you shut down completely, diverting your eyes as you quietly predict this person will not be interested in you or anything you have to offer? All they did was enter the room. What happened to you? Where did this turmoil of emotions come from? Short answer: Unintegrated emotions are buried in your body. Your subconscious will keep triggering them as long as the emotions remain unresolved. Emotional Resolution®, EmRes®, resolves the imbedded emotions, integrating them into our past experience. As a result, we will remember, but not be triggered by them. Long answer: continue reading to learn how are emotions triggered, how do they get integrated or not, when are they revived or resolved. It works the same way for all triggered emotions. 1. You are sitting in a meeting room, and Tom enters. You didn’t know Tom was attending, so it gets your attention. But nothing else about Tom’s arrival or appearance provokes a secondary reaction. You go back to your coffee. 2. You are still waiting for the meeting to start and in strolls Becky. She’s to lead the discussion and is late. Becky holds an important position in your organization. Again, you focus because she will start the meeting. But now you feel anger and irritation because she is late. Your inner conversation: “It’s totally inappropriate! She should be on time. She doesn’t respect people’s time and our contribution to the company. We have work to do, and she shouldn’t waste our time by arriving late!” Geez, where did that come from? She wasn’t the last to arrive, but Becky is who you are angry with. Emotions are prompted by something outside us. Our subconscious interprets what we sense (see, hear, touch, etc.). It compares this information with memories to create a prediction about what will happen next. It communicates the prediction via physical sensations that our cognitive mind interprets as emotion. Everyone’s matrix of physical sensations-emotions are unique to them, but we all have experienced anger, fear, shame, etc. When you see Tom and experience heightened attention, you feel the physical sensation/emotion, and it passes quickly. No triggering. This is a primary emotional RESPONSE. When you see Becky, your attention is drawn away from your coffee as the meeting starts. Again, your subconscious has activated physical sensations caused by a mild alarm to take notice/pay attention. This initial response to Becky quickly passes, but it is replaced by anger. The anger toward Becky is a secondary emotional REACTION. Secondary emotional reactions are felt more strongly and last longer. They happen because we have unresolved high-stress events and traumas from the past. Sometimes, our bodies can’t finish processing our experienced emotions due to extreme stress or loss of consciousness. The emotion’s remaining physical sensations remain in the body as sensory imprints in hibernation. Our subconscious wakes the dormant sensory imprints when it predicts that the current situation is “similar enough” to the original situation. “Similar enough” is often very subtle. In this meeting scenario, there is something about watching Becky casually walk into the meeting that connects the subconscious to memory and a dormant sensory imprint, which produces anger. The subtle trigger could be the color she is wearing, the shadow she creates on the wall or the sudden quiet in the room as the meeting starts. Only the subconscious knows what the precise trigger is. And unfortunately, the subconscious isn’t confessing. Luckily, with EmRes, we don’t have to know or understand it—we only know that the trigger exists. I’ll get back to this shortly. How do we change our secondary emotional reaction? Primary emotions are responses to something outside us. Secondary emotions are reactions to something INSIDE us, and they are uncomfortable. To ease our distress, we spend a lot of time employing coping skills as temporary fixes. There are whole disciplines and industries that promise to make us feel better: relief by breathing through the anger, extra reps at the gym, glasses of wine or beer after work, snacks, gambling, etc. But none of these behaviors fix the triggering. Secondary emotion triggering will repeat until the sensory imprint is integrated. We could find out why we have these feelings in the first place. Maybe if we knew why it would stop? The problem is most of our injuries originate in the womb, during birth, and the first thousand days of life. Who has clear memories of those times? We may never know the details of the original injury that caused the emotion to be unprocessed and buried in the first place. And knowing doesn’t integrate the buried memory anyway. What works? Uncomfortable emotions are triggered by three components: a situation in the current reality, an associated memory (connected by the subconscious,) and the related sensory imprint. We will continuously be in new situations that mimic old conditions to our subconscious. So that side of the triangle(current situation/memory) is not “fixable.” The sensory imprint must be integrated—it’s the only handle we have. The good news is that EmRes will address these buried sensory imprints to break up the triangle of triggered emotions. Our bodies have an innate capacity to resolve primary emotions once their message is delivered to the cognitive brain. It does this all day, every day, without even noticing. EmRes capitalizes on this capacity to remove imprinted emotions. When situations trigger emotions, it demonstrates that a buried emotion is screaming for integration. The emotion-situation acts as a GPS to the sensory imprints. EmRes then pairs the body’s innate capacity and the triggered secondary emotion scenario to resolve the buried emotion. And the anger-triangle breaks! Now you notice that Becky is late, but you don’t get angry about it. And unless you are Becky’s boss, you can care about other things. It sounds too simple to be effective. EmRes is straightforward and precise. Our cognitive mind will try to derail the process by explaining, judging, or suppressing uncomfortable emotional sensations. In EmRes sessions, certified EmRes practitioners keep you on track through the process of integrating emotions. EmRes sessions are like having a conversation with a friend. It’s not about re-triggering. Share only as many personal details as you feel comfortable expressing. You are conscious and in control the whole time. The discussion starts by telling about the moments before a recent triggering event, and the practitioner guides you through the rest of the process. Leave triangles to music Integrating buried emotions/sensorial imprints means the emotion triangle no longer exists. The triggering can no longer happen when that current situation/memory fragments are connected by the subconscious. It may connect them, but there is no residual emotion to trigger. Hallelujah! Every uncomfortable emotion you experience, large or small, is an emotion-triangle waiting to happen. What other emotional reactions do you experience that are unnecessary? Uncomfortable emotions take up our precious mental and physical resources—even small annoyances build-up if experienced all day, every day. If you are not content, there is a buried emotion to work on! · When do you feel worthless, anxious, uninspired? · When do others drag you down, irritate you, and waste your time? · When are you blaming, controlling, complaining? · When do you find yourself overreaching to impress or letting go of boundaries to gain ground? · When are you thinking of memories or impossible futures that encourage not being in and enjoying the present moment? · When is “that’s just my personality” your excuse? · When are you not happy? · Do you believe angst is a normal human condition? IT’S NOT! Are you ready to be content? About Sue Sue Siebens is an intuitive holistic healer based in Dallas, Texas. In her practice, she uses techniques that work at a fundamental level, where the roots of the illness, fear, and pain can be accessed and resolved. Sue teaches and blogs to broadcast and raise awareness about these new technologies so that as many people as possible can find relief and peace in their life.